―What do you think is the difference between girls who are being considerate, and those who exaggerate?
maya「One example is when having a meal together, then I would say that the girl who takes initiative and ensures that everyone gets a fair share of food is considerate. If you were to reflect too much over handing out the food correctly, maybe even calculating the portions, when do you go from being considerate to exaggerating? When? Well in that case, I think it’s all about timing. Those who really are considerate know how to properly read the atmosphere, they can understand whether to hand out the food or not, I think. But well, I don’t think you make such a fuss over sharing food correctly. It changes depending on the situation, doesn’t it?」
Aiji「Usually, aren’t you kind towards your companions? Getting used to being nice to people, I think you could learn from how you interact with a friend. Ah, now, if that person is troubled in some way, you would give a helping hand. I think that’s what you do. For example, if you notice that the person has both hands full, you ought to open the door, don’t you agree? Isn’t that what to begin with when it comes to being kind? Maybe that’s a start at least?」
―Saying that is a basic part of being human, isn’t it.
Aiji「Ah, yeah. If you would exaggerate though, in spite of being nice it would be kind of strained. For example, let’s say that there’s a trash bin right next to me and then someone who’s further away from the trash bin than I am meddles in. If that person would say “I’ll go and throw away the trash”, I would feel like “No no, it’s okay. I’ll do it!”. Though when eating food with maybe three people, obviously I will take the food that’s closest to me on purpose, instead of that the person opposite should hand it out. If so, I would think “Eh? Why? No no, it’s okay, I’ll do it myself”. 」
―Yeah yeah. In that case, there’s quite a subtle line between “Oh. You thought of me. Thanks”, and “That’s meddling”.
Aiji「Well indeed it’s a difficult topic. There’s different terms and conditions for different situations. And whether the companion is the same sex or not may change the situation significantly, and if it was – let’s say the manager –, I would probably not think of calculating the amount the food.」
maya「Indeed (agrees)」
Aiji「And well, I think that somehow you can understand if someone’s doing it with an ulterior motive, or if it’s truly out of kindness. The ulterior motive thing is a bit bad I guess. But if someone comes into a room and nonchalantly organizes their own shoes, and then organizes mine too, it’s not with an ulterior motive, is it? I mean, first afterwards will I notice and think “Ah, you organized them”, and so, it’s true kindness. I think that’s good. 」
maya「Precisely, that’s what being considerate is. Or maybe you adapt. Because if you already have a habit of handing out correct portions already, it’s not the same thing as being kind. However, people not equipped with that skill can’t be helped I guess (laughs).」
Aiji「But, if you have the kindness, can’t you overcome not having the skills? That’s absolutely a kindness that will lead somewhere.」
maya「Yeah. Let’s say that you dropped the flyers you were holding. And someone picked them up. To that extent it’s more of an excuse. And in that case it also seems like boys show up a lot more often. Or well, it’s out of kindness too though. In a manner of speaking it’s a true form of kindness.」
Aiji「Ah, yeah. That’s right of course.」
maya「But still, if you would like, come sliding really fast from far away to pick up those flyers, it would be kind of surprising, wouldn’t it (laughs)? That’s to exaggerate I think. 」
Aiji「Ahahahah. That’s for sure. Though, whether you’re dividing food, or picking up flyers, or going out with the trash, to do it from an appropriate distance is important (laughs). 」
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